Noises everywhere, never stopping.
Is it me, or is everyone just talking for the sake of talking?
A friend told me that there are two kinds of talking which are chatting or conversating. Chatting is lighthearted most of the time and doesn’t really require us to think what we say. The purpose is mostly to fill in the gaps of silence. The good thing about it is that we can do it with everyone we encounter, especially with those we just met. It can be a great tool to break the ice and slowly go further from the surface to get to know each other better. but most of the time it just stays on the surface.
To communicate is something else. It requires much more than just opening our mouths and say the first thing that comes up to our minds. Communication is not only about the output of words. It’s about actively channeling through your mind to get conscious about your thoughts and how to use that to shed light on subjects that need to talk about in order to change it. As much as it’s about speaking, it’s also about listening carefully. It’s not about filling in the silence, but use that silence as a necessary pause to process, listen and shape the right words in our mind before saying it out loud.
Many may are able to hold a conversation by sharing their thoughts but not listening to each other one bit.
Do you even communicate?
Do you remember to stop talking and catch your breath?
To recognize what you are usually talking about also reflects on how self-absorbed you are. If you only talk about yourself without further indication to share information to someone for whatever reason, for example getting to know each other better or to help the other understand where you’ re coming from with your thoughts – then yeah, you are kinda self-absorbed. That goes the same with listening. If you constantly interrupt, feels impatient when someone else is talking or shift the direction of the conversation towards yourself once again, then yeah you are for sure too much into yourself. Get that checkup ASAP.
No, seriously.
Chatting is fun and stuff, but I don’t know about you – I want to leave this world a better place after I have turned in a speck of dust. No matter how small the change may be, it’s still a change nonetheless. How to do that?
If you care about something, spread that around for more awareness. Nothing is more efficient than through communication. Communication including all the emotion and silences.
Too much white noise, what we need is context and patience.
Ask yourself;
Do you even communicate?
Do you even listen?
Talking without listening is just a way to stroke your own ego – it only fills your own desires in the end. Only when talking and listening is aligned with each other will a conversation brings opportunities to change something.
It always must go hand in hand, never should lose sight of each other
From the girl who rambles through life
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