It will pass when it passes

Breath, this will pass

This is for those who have its portion with bad luck and hopeless days. For those who have troubles getting out of bed each day and those who don’t seem to see the use in life anymore; this is for you.

Life seems even harder to live by when it hasn’t been your day, month or even year. It’s hard to stay hopeful when nothing really works out how you have planned out to be. We all are winging life as we go through phases of warmth and love and empty phases of loneliness. It’s the sunny days that we all long for all year long, but it’s the dark days that can teach us something to make us into a more resilient person. Each day is a new chance again to take on the challenges that life throws at us. And even obstacles in which we can’t seem to overcome within a certain period that we put ourselves on it – it doesn’t matter.

Life flows as it flows,

though sometimes some people have more luck than others – it doesn’t mean that the Universe has something against you. It doesn’t mean everyone is out to get you. We are only able to see things from our own perspective, hence thinking that there must be something wrong with ourselves when we go through some traumatic experiences. And no matter how horrifying and devastating those situations are, it will eventually pass.

Slow down for a bit, breath, this will pass.

For the sake of your own well-being, you should let go of things that have hurt you in the past. You should be able to let things pass in a way that it could serve you in a healthy way. Be angry when you need to lash it out, but don’t stay angry forever – it will pass. Be disappointed when you have miscalculated your expectations towards certain people, but don’t stay disappointed forever while others have probably already have moved on with their life.

Be and feel anything that you need to feel in order to properly progress what has happened, but don’t stay forever in that space where you don’t allow yourself to pass on with your life.

You are not doing anyone a favor by letting old wounds pass. Instead, you are doing it for your own sake, you are doing yourself a big favor.

Breath, whatever you are going through now, this will pass.

It will pass if you allow it to pass. It will pass if you pass off your ego and the belief that you are a victim in life. Because you are not. You have control of your life, maybe not everything that happens. But you do have your perception of life in hand by deciding to believe that everyone goes through stuff. And that you go through the same too in another context. It doesn’t mean you can’t feel demotivated by it when can’t seem how to navigate through this messiness. But don’t drown yourself in a pool of self-pity, because everything eventually will pass.

It will pass when it passes.

So give yourself a pat on the shoulder, be proud of the things that you have overcome. All good things may come to an end, but please remember, it goes the same with those moments you wish you could erase and pretend it didn’t happen.

Breath – this too will pass.

From the girl who rambles through life 

 

Avoiding negativity won’t make you into a positive person

I’m sure all of us strive to be a positive person eventually. With 2019 almost coming to an end, new resolutions will be made again, each goal to help us get closer to become our own best version of ourselves. That includes becoming more positive in our skin as well, that goes of course without saying.
When positivity becomes a focus, it is logical to not attract negativity to practise positivity in life. But there is a fine line between attracting negativity and avoiding negativity and it is precisely that very fine line that determines if you are walking towards a brighter future or a slightly grimmer one.

So when exactly do we know if we are doing the correct thing? You will know if you are attracting negativity because the consequences will show it to you. Attracting negativity is something you do within your own control.

It is seeking unnecessary drama that put you into a spiral of more negativity.

It is filling our life in with white noise because we can’t seem to satisfy ourself with the quiet around us. It’s quite clear that by doing this, it won’t help you to become a positive person at all.

On the other hand, avoiding negativity doesn’t necessarily turn you into a positive person. It also depends on what kind of negativity it is and if that personally influences you. If you pile up problems on problems that affect you in your day-to-day life and don’t voice it out, it is sure that you will reach a certain point that your bucket will get full and a single drop can make you spill out everything you have been holding in all that time.

By making a space for your obstacles, you make it visible and a part of yourself.

By making space for a conversation, the obstacles reached into a safe space where embarrassment and feelings of shame can find their way out. By making it visible, you will live side by side with your struggles, but meanwhile also finding the courage to make it better for yourself.
By giving your “negativity” space instead of avoiding or hiding it, you are admitting that it’s not going so well, and yes it totally sucks, but it also means that you got to a point that you are willing to face it with your head kept high.

From that point on, keep your head high and your heart in a good place, because your baggage can only get you down for so long, but by confronting it – you are giving yourself a chance to work it out this thing called life. Avoiding negativity won’t only make you into a positive person, it makes you into an even more negative person as well. And because hiding will become a comfort at some point, it only will get harder each time to open the door and face the cutthroat cold that forces you to see the truth – your truth.

Negative energy won’t just disappear just because you don’t talk about it or pretend it doesn’t exist.

Negativity, in general, is still a stigma that has not been talked about enough. Instead, we hear that we need to get over it to become happy. But isn’t that “getting over” part really means to face it instead of jotting it down into a bottle and throw it away into the far ocean where you hope your secrets won’t ever get revealed? I don’t know about you, but I have avoided enough so far and I think it’s finally time to break some taboos in the new year! Here is to making space for conversations that are so so needed to make this world and the people living in it – so much better than before.

From the girl who rambles through life