Taking care of ourselves seems like a self-evident concept. Still, it isn’t as easy to execute if we focus on the wrong things, to begin with. When we say taking care or focusing on ourselves, we often confuse that with parts that are additional in our life. Think of a job, a social circle, a relationship, ways to fulfill our materialistic desires and our outer appearance.
At first, it might not feel like an addition because it only feels natural to focus on these things in life. So we confuse ourselves thinking that when we are working on ourselves, it means to put the focus on these parts. Some will start to exaggerating focusing on either one part or either spreading their focus on all external parts to give themselves a sense that they indeed are ‘’working on themselves’’.
We then feel temporarily good about ourselves when we reach achievement after achievement when we put a certain amount of effort and time in our professional field. Or we would feel motivated for a little while once we fulfill a materialistic need after materialistic need when we are constantly consuming. Or we could feel inconsistently confident when we put all of our focus on the way we look. Or thinking that we are in control of our love life when we are monitoring every step and way how our relationship should be like when we put all of our energy and time into it.
In the end, we mislead ourselves thinking that we got on the right track and that eventually, it will all be all right when we just put enough focus on all the parts that seem to identify ourselves as a person.
But that’s not it. We have been doing it the wrong way all along. Those are not parts that identify us. Focusing on ourselves means just the opposite. It means to be in the center and let all additional parts be branches of our core. The core that holds us up, our spinal cord to keep everything together. So it is important to keep that in check by focusing on our physical and mental health. That includes everything from how at peace we are with our feelings to be able to breakdown the things we feel and the reason behind it. It’s taking care of our body – from working on a regular sleep routine, being conscious of the type of food we take in, to doing exercises that fit into the current condition of our physical ability.
It’s working on towards consciousness of every detail that keep our mind and body align towards a good direction and then make sure to be consistent throughout the process.
It’s putting yourself first. It’s treating yourself how you would treat others – with kindness and patience.
It’s doing the things you enjoy to do without making a public announcement about it or asking for affirmation, simply because you enjoy doing it.
It’s working on yourself through soul-filling activities that awaken your hunger for constant learning with enjoyment, reminding you to stay humble for we all are learning and absorbing new stimulation that we allow space in our life. And eventually, through this way of feeding our mind – not with consumption only – but with values through leisure pursuits and strengthening our body with the right nutrients and movements, our core would stand firm and proud, naturally improving all the other additional branches that make up a part of our life.
That’s what focusing on yourself really means.
To grow a strong core, living according to your own desired norms and values and thanking our body for another sunrise by treating it wisely and kind.
Don’t neglect or abuse your physical and mental health for short-term pleasure that eventually will turn into long-term damage. Don’t waste your healthy days away by acting and speaking in a way to seek approval and acceptance.
And remember:
- Your job doesn’t define you
- Your social life doesn’t define you
- Your relationship status doesn’t define you
- Your outer appearance doesn’t define you
What does instead?
- The way you treat yourself
- The way you treat others
- How flexible your mind is
- How strong your ‘’spinal cord’’ is, how you stand behind your own words and align that with our actions.
Rinse and repeat
From the girl who rambles through life